When one is a child, in elementary school, high school, etc, one immediately responds to people with no expectations and goals. Somehow simply saying to yourself, without words "there you are." As one gets older, that changes, yet every now and then, you see someone and say "there you are." Somehow fall into step... Jim was such a person for me, losing him so suddenly has stayed with me, more than I would have ever expected. Otherwise he was an asshole, but he was my kind of asshole. He made me sick, but he gave me the cure.